Do U sometimes feel like you are just a "paycheck" to your family, DAD!
I entered the house and heard the sounds of voices engaged in a friendly game of cards. My wife and kids were sprawled out on the floor of the family room, and they were oblivious to my arrival.
“Hi guys!” I yelled. There was no answer. “Hi there!” I tried again. “You can’t use that card!” I heard my daughter shriek.Then the thoughts started to come. “I’m invisible to them!” I told myself. “All the stuff I do around here, and does anybody notice it? I’m working my tail off again, and they’re in here playing!” As I went downstairs, I took along some heavy baggage with me.
Fathers go through periods when they feel “outside” of their family. They feel neglected, or they feel invisible. Or, they feel like they’re just a “paycheck” to their families. But what’s really happened is they’ve forgotten they’re not on this planet to “get” love from their family members.
Read more at: http://www.christianfathers.com/father-left-out.htm
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Thursday, November 20, 2008
Tuesday, October 21, 2008
Angered, Impatience Dads
It’s useful to remember that our kids are not to be controlled. They are to be guided and led, but not controlled. This impatience and desire to control can lead many fathers to an emotional disconnect with their kids. And while many fathers have an acute awareness of this issue, they convince themselves that it can’t be helped.
Read the whole article at: http://www.christianfathers.com/controlling-parent.htm
Read the whole article at: http://www.christianfathers.com/controlling-parent.htm
Friday, October 3, 2008
The Importance of Feeling Important
Terry L. Sumerlin sharing - About twenty years ago, when our married daughters were in elementary school, they had a bicycle accident. Jo Ellen, our oldest, lost control of her bike and ran into her sister, Amanda, who was standing right in her path. Suddenly the front fender of the bike slid rather abruptly between Amanda’s fingers, and left a sizable gash that required several stitches.
The thing I remember most about the incident took place after we returned from the doctor. Amanda stood in our den, held up her bandaged fingers and, with absolute innocence and candor, declared, “Now I finally have something important to talk about!”
What a commentary on people – young and old. We all want to feel important and to have something important to tell others.
As children, we couldn’t wait to tell others how we got our bruise, our cut or our broken bone. As adults we’re sometimes the same with illnesses and surgeries. They make us feel special. They become badges of honor. We act somewhat like a friend I had who broke his neck and, though he healed, subsequently referenced everything to before or after his accident. We, too, are prone to “hang on to” such personally important events. We need to feel important.
Read all of Terry's sharing on Christian Father at; http://www.christianfathers.com/self-esteem.htm and/or scroll down my blog and lookout on the right side for Incredible DADs Link for more info
The thing I remember most about the incident took place after we returned from the doctor. Amanda stood in our den, held up her bandaged fingers and, with absolute innocence and candor, declared, “Now I finally have something important to talk about!”
What a commentary on people – young and old. We all want to feel important and to have something important to tell others.
As children, we couldn’t wait to tell others how we got our bruise, our cut or our broken bone. As adults we’re sometimes the same with illnesses and surgeries. They make us feel special. They become badges of honor. We act somewhat like a friend I had who broke his neck and, though he healed, subsequently referenced everything to before or after his accident. We, too, are prone to “hang on to” such personally important events. We need to feel important.
Read all of Terry's sharing on Christian Father at; http://www.christianfathers.com/self-esteem.htm and/or scroll down my blog and lookout on the right side for Incredible DADs Link for more info
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i-youth - Life Worth Living Seminar
Living to tell life is still worth living because of Jesus. Lee Chin was totally disfigured in an acid attack, contemplated suicide several time but found Christ and because of Jesus, she lives to tell others Life is Worth Living. Li Chin recently spoke to more than 10,000 people in partnership with Campus Crusade's i-youth, in Kuching
I-youth Venture 2008
giving 3 months of your life, March to May every year. From Left: Joyce, from Klang. Jessalynn, local JB gal, Jared - Klang, all 3 have completed STPM, got their result, applied for Local University and finally, Jocelyn from Perlis who have also completed SPM and planning to pursue Study in a Private College.
