Friday, October 3, 2008
My Struggle in Shame with Masturbation - Your Teenager may be going through this!
Honestly, I didn't know where to begin. I just knew I needed to say something. The last several months had been really difficult for me. I hadn't been myself. I wasn't reading my Bible. I rarely prayed. And I'd lost my joy—often snapping angrily at loved ones, feeling lonely and fearing everyone was out to get me. I felt trapped in a dark pit and I didn't know how to climb out.
What I did know was how I got into that pit. It'd been a long, gradual slide downward. For years, I'd been masturbating. No, that act alone didn't cause all of my problems. Instead, it was a symptom of the selfishness, lust and pride built up in my heart. I tried to convince myself masturbation was harmless—a normal part of sexuality. But really, it allowed my weaknesses to take a hold of me. When I hated myself, masturbation was an easy way to feel wanted and loved. When I felt out of control, my fantasies were a place where I could control anything—or anyone. On top of all this, I felt intense guilt and shame for my actions.
Read All of My STRUGGLE IN SHAME WITH MASTURBATION By Scott Kelly at http://www.christianitytoday.com/cl/2008/003/9.38.html and/or scroll down my blog and look for My Name is Spell T.E.E.N. TEENs only Link.
What I did know was how I got into that pit. It'd been a long, gradual slide downward. For years, I'd been masturbating. No, that act alone didn't cause all of my problems. Instead, it was a symptom of the selfishness, lust and pride built up in my heart. I tried to convince myself masturbation was harmless—a normal part of sexuality. But really, it allowed my weaknesses to take a hold of me. When I hated myself, masturbation was an easy way to feel wanted and loved. When I felt out of control, my fantasies were a place where I could control anything—or anyone. On top of all this, I felt intense guilt and shame for my actions.
Read All of My STRUGGLE IN SHAME WITH MASTURBATION By Scott Kelly at http://www.christianitytoday.com/cl/2008/003/9.38.html and/or scroll down my blog and look for My Name is Spell T.E.E.N. TEENs only Link.
The Importance of Feeling Important
Terry L. Sumerlin sharing - About twenty years ago, when our married daughters were in elementary school, they had a bicycle accident. Jo Ellen, our oldest, lost control of her bike and ran into her sister, Amanda, who was standing right in her path. Suddenly the front fender of the bike slid rather abruptly between Amanda’s fingers, and left a sizable gash that required several stitches.
The thing I remember most about the incident took place after we returned from the doctor. Amanda stood in our den, held up her bandaged fingers and, with absolute innocence and candor, declared, “Now I finally have something important to talk about!”
What a commentary on people – young and old. We all want to feel important and to have something important to tell others.
As children, we couldn’t wait to tell others how we got our bruise, our cut or our broken bone. As adults we’re sometimes the same with illnesses and surgeries. They make us feel special. They become badges of honor. We act somewhat like a friend I had who broke his neck and, though he healed, subsequently referenced everything to before or after his accident. We, too, are prone to “hang on to” such personally important events. We need to feel important.
Read all of Terry's sharing on Christian Father at; http://www.christianfathers.com/self-esteem.htm and/or scroll down my blog and lookout on the right side for Incredible DADs Link for more info
The thing I remember most about the incident took place after we returned from the doctor. Amanda stood in our den, held up her bandaged fingers and, with absolute innocence and candor, declared, “Now I finally have something important to talk about!”
What a commentary on people – young and old. We all want to feel important and to have something important to tell others.
As children, we couldn’t wait to tell others how we got our bruise, our cut or our broken bone. As adults we’re sometimes the same with illnesses and surgeries. They make us feel special. They become badges of honor. We act somewhat like a friend I had who broke his neck and, though he healed, subsequently referenced everything to before or after his accident. We, too, are prone to “hang on to” such personally important events. We need to feel important.
Read all of Terry's sharing on Christian Father at; http://www.christianfathers.com/self-esteem.htm and/or scroll down my blog and lookout on the right side for Incredible DADs Link for more info
Moms need FRIENDS too!
With everything we moms have to do, making time for our friends seems impossible. We’re lucky if we have time to do more than shoot them an occasional email, and it’s likely that our friends feel like they’re in the same boat.
But have you noticed that your children are happier when they’ve had a chance to play with others? That somehow we find the time to schedule play dates for them?
We moms are the same way. We need our friends to make us laugh, share our troubles and just keep us connected to the world beyond children and work. The good news is that if we schedule time to be with our friends we’ll be more likely to keep the appointments – and come back feeling refreshed and better able to deal with our family and work responsibilities.
Read all about Moms Need Friends too at http://www.christian-parent.com/mom-play-dates.shtml And/or scroll down this blog on the right side you can find Incredible MOMs Link for more info and articles.
But have you noticed that your children are happier when they’ve had a chance to play with others? That somehow we find the time to schedule play dates for them?
We moms are the same way. We need our friends to make us laugh, share our troubles and just keep us connected to the world beyond children and work. The good news is that if we schedule time to be with our friends we’ll be more likely to keep the appointments – and come back feeling refreshed and better able to deal with our family and work responsibilities.
Read all about Moms Need Friends too at http://www.christian-parent.com/mom-play-dates.shtml And/or scroll down this blog on the right side you can find Incredible MOMs Link for more info and articles.
Guilt Free PARENTING...We all want it!
I don’t know about you, but I do guilt very well. At times, it seems like I can feel guilty for almost anything. Also, as a parent I mess up routinely. I can be short with my temper and my words are not always pleasant. Also, there seems to be a new parenting article out daily that tells you how to parent and of course it feels like to me anyway that I always come up short. My hunch is I am not the only one that feels that way. So, how do I have the audacity to come up with an article entitled, “Guilt Free Parenting”? Actually, it wasn’t totally my idea. God placed the idea and burden on my heart to share it with you.
Let’s look at Psalm 139:16, “Thine eyes have seen my unformed substance; And in Thy book they were all written, the days that were ordained for me, when as yet there was not one of them.” Basically, before you were born God marked out your days and may I add also your children’s days. God has a plan for you and He has one for your children as well.
What does all of this have to do with guilt free parenting? I’m glad you asked. God is truly in control of your life and your children’s lives as well. We cannot always see His hand or plan, but He is there. That means on our worst parenting days God is still working His plan in our lives and in our children’s lives in spite of us. There have been so many times in the Bible where at first glance God’s plan did not make sense and then on later inspection it made perfect sense. So, when we are not doing a good job of being parents, God is still working in our lives and our children’s lives.
Read all at http://www.christian-parent.com/articles/042705e.shtml Scroll down and watch out for Incredible PARENTING Link on the right side of this blog for more information about PARENTING
Let’s look at Psalm 139:16, “Thine eyes have seen my unformed substance; And in Thy book they were all written, the days that were ordained for me, when as yet there was not one of them.” Basically, before you were born God marked out your days and may I add also your children’s days. God has a plan for you and He has one for your children as well.
What does all of this have to do with guilt free parenting? I’m glad you asked. God is truly in control of your life and your children’s lives as well. We cannot always see His hand or plan, but He is there. That means on our worst parenting days God is still working His plan in our lives and in our children’s lives in spite of us. There have been so many times in the Bible where at first glance God’s plan did not make sense and then on later inspection it made perfect sense. So, when we are not doing a good job of being parents, God is still working in our lives and our children’s lives.
Read all at http://www.christian-parent.com/articles/042705e.shtml Scroll down and watch out for Incredible PARENTING Link on the right side of this blog for more information about PARENTING
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i-youth - Life Worth Living Seminar
Living to tell life is still worth living because of Jesus. Lee Chin was totally disfigured in an acid attack, contemplated suicide several time but found Christ and because of Jesus, she lives to tell others Life is Worth Living. Li Chin recently spoke to more than 10,000 people in partnership with Campus Crusade's i-youth, in Kuching
I-youth Venture 2008
giving 3 months of your life, March to May every year. From Left: Joyce, from Klang. Jessalynn, local JB gal, Jared - Klang, all 3 have completed STPM, got their result, applied for Local University and finally, Jocelyn from Perlis who have also completed SPM and planning to pursue Study in a Private College.
