The Purpose of Breaking!

Breaking the Lamb's leg

A woman who took a vacation to visit family back in Ireland. While she was there, she visited an uncle who was a shepherd.While visiting with him, she walked into a barn and saw a young lamb with its leg in a splint. “Awwww, what happened?” she wanted to know. “Oh,” said the old shepherd, “he had a bad habit of running off, so yesterday, I broke his leg.”When the old man told her that, she was appalled. “Why on earth would you do that”, she asked. “Well”, he said, “the little guy had a bad habit of running off. Every time he would do that, he would be in danger. He could fall off the edge of a cliff and kill himself, or a wolf or some other predator could find him, kill him and eat him. He was a stubborn little guy, too. Every time he ran off, I would have to go find him. Then, I would set him with the rest of the flock only to have him run off again.So, I broke his leg. But, that’s not the end of it. After I broke his leg, I also mended it. I put a splint on it, all the while, I was talking to him, comforting him, consoling him. Now, I have to carry water in to him every day. Not only that, I have to feed him by hand. As I do, I continue to talk to him and comfort him. By the time his leg heals, he will know my voice. He will know that it is I who takes care of him. He will come when I call him. He will stay with me, no matter what. Now, I will be able to lead him, and the rest of the sheep will follow him. This lamb will one day be the best sheep of the flock – why, because yesterday, I broke his leg. In order to break its will, I had to break its leg.”Often, for God to be able to use us, He must first break us.

ThiNk aBoUt It!

A Message by George Carlin: a comedian in the 70's

The paradox of our time in history is that we have taller buildings but shorter tempers, wider Freeways, but narrower viewpoints. We spend more, but have less, we buy more, but enjoy less.

We have bigger houses and smaller families, more conveniences, but less time. We have more degrees but less sense, more knowledge, but less judgment, more experts, yet more problems, more medicine, but less wellness.

We drink too much, smoke too much, spend too recklessly, laugh too little, drive too fast, get too angry, stay up too late, get up too tired, read too little, watch TV too much, and pray too seldom. We have multiplied our possessions, but reduced our values.

We talk too much, love too seldom, and hate too often.We've learned how to make a living, but not a life. We've added years to life not life to years. We've been all the way to the moon and back, but have trouble crossing the street to meet a new neighbor. We conquered outer space but not inner space.

We've done larger things, but not better things. We've cleaned up the air, but polluted the soul. We've conquered the atom, but not our prejudice. We write more, but learn less. We plan more, but accomplish less. We've learned to rush, but not to wait.

We build more computers to hold more information, to produce more copies than ever, but we communicate less and less. These are the times of fast foods and slow digestion, big men and small character, steep profits and shallow relationships. These are the days of two incomes but more divorce, fancier houses, but broken homes.

These are days of quick trips, disposable diapers, throwaway morality, one night stands, overweight bodies, and pills that do everything from cheer, to quiet, to kill. It is a time when there is much in the showroom window and nothing in the stockroom. A time when technology can bring this letter to you, and a time when you can choose either to share this insight, or to just hit delete...

Remember; spend some time with your loved ones, because they are not going to be around forever.Remember, say a kind word to someone who looks up to you in awe, because that little person soon will grow up and leave your side.Remember, to give a warm hug to the one next to you, because that is the only treasure you can give with your heart and it doesn't cost a cent.Remember, to say, "I love you" to your partner and your loved ones, but most of all mean it. A kiss and an embrace will mend hurt when it comes from deep inside of you.Remember to hold hands and cherish the moment for someday that person will not be there again.Give time to love, give time to speak! And give time to share the precious thoughts in your mind.AND ALWAYS REMEMBER:Life is not measured by the number of breaths we take, but by the moments that take our breath away.

Helping Teens with Pornography Addiction

Helping Your Child Avoid the Pornography Trap - By; Dennis and Barbara Rainey

Developing your child’s convictions about pornography will take many different forms. We’ve gone to junior high and high school to talk to teachers who have asked our sons to read what would be rated R in movies. We’ve sought to expose pornography’s lies by talking about its impact on men like Ted Bundy. And we’ve taken our sons and daughters with us when we’ve gone to movie theaters to talk to theater managers and protest an NC-17 (formerly X-rated) movie that came to our community.

All of these actions and more can shape your child’s convictions and keep him out of the traps. In addition, there are two other convictions your child should learn and embrace.

Child’s Conviction 1: I understand that pornography is sin and can destroy my life and my future marriage and family.
You may wonder how much detail to share about pornography with a child without drifting toward prurience. A great guideline is to look at Scripture and see how the Lord warns us about certain things. He certainly doesn’t tell the whole story to provoke our carnality and flesh to sin. For example, in Proverbs we read this description of a woman to avoid: “For the lips of an adulteress drip honey, and smoother than oil is her speech” (5:3). That is not an explicit description of a prostitute propositioning someone, but it gets the point across.

When talking to a preteen or teen about pornography, you can explain that many people today look at pictures of naked women and men performing sexual activity, but none of this is pleasing to God. Pornography takes something that is beautiful when it occurs between a married man and woman and makes it dirty. At younger ages, say up to about 12, your child needs only to know that pornography isn’t good for him. He certainly doesn’t need details that would attract him.

Read all of the article at; http://www.familylife.com/site/apps/nlnet/content3.aspx?c=dnJHKLNnFoG&b=3576485&content_id={ED136FB8-8C7A-4772-8CB6-E9AAF59528BD}&notoc=1

Pornography!!!

Breaking Free From the Trap of Pornography - by: Dave Boehi

Note: In last week’s column, I discussed the temptations we face each day in our sexualized culture. You can’t avoid temptation, but you can control your response. I thought I’d finish the discussion about temptation by talking about breaking free from the trap of pornography, which is one of the most destructive enemies of marriages today. Even if you aren't dealing with this issue, the following (adapted from a longer article I wrote with Mike Pickle) provides valuable information you can use to counsel others.

Pornography takes something that is beautiful when it occurs between a married man and woman and makes it dirty. God created the act of sexual union as a special gift for a husband and wife. It is a celebration of love that strengthens a marriage and builds oneness.
But pornography twists and perverts the beauty and biblical design of God's creation. The focus on sensual pleasure becomes such a powerful drug that it destroys all that is important in the rest of their lives. It leads men and women to look at each other as nothing more than sex objects. It causes them to fantasize about sexual relationships with other people, and that's a terrible blow to their marital commitment.

If you want to break free from the sexual sin and lust fueled by pornography, the first thing you need to realize is that you can't do it in your own power. You need the presence of God in your life. In fact, if you have never understood what it means to be a Christian, and how you can know God personally, please read this clear presentation of the gospel. It will be the most important decision of your life.

If you know Christ lives within you, here are some suggested steps for dealing with the trap of pornography:

Step One: Confess Your Sin. When you try to keep such sin secret, your spirit will become increasingly troubled. As David wrote in Psalm 32:3-4: “When I kept silent about my sin, my body wasted away through my groaning all day long. For day and night Your hand was heavy upon me; my vitality was drained away as with the fever heat of summer.”
On one hand, confession is simply agreeing with God about sin in your life. Jesus said in Matthew 5:28, "Everyone who looks at a woman with lust for her has already committed adultery with her in his heart." When you look at those pictures or images to stimulate you sexually, you are committing adultery in your heart. When you confess this to the Lord, you simply say, "Yes, I was lusting after that woman. I sinned against You, Father."
You may be thinking, "I've done that. But nothing changed." That's because, when faced with a deep-rooted sin such as this—one that has involved numerous poor choices over a period of time—your confession must come with a broken heart that shows that you are repentant—ready to turn away from your sin.

Repentance means "to turn around." When you have a habit of sin in your life, it is like getting in a car and driving away from God. When you repent, you stop moving away from God and turn around to face Him, and through His power start moving toward Him again.

What does God do when you come to Him with an attitude of brokenness and repentance? He offers forgiveness and cleansing. 1 John 1:9 tells us, "If we confess our sins, He is faithful and righteous to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness." You may not be freed from the desire to commit this sin again, but you can be freed from the crushing weight of guilt and shame.

Step Two: Make no provision for the flesh (Romans 13:14). Not only should you remove every trace of pornography from your home or office, but you also should take practical steps to put barriers between you and any sources. If magazines or books are a temptation, stay away from the stores where you purchase pornography. If you've been watching erotic movies on cable or satellite television, downgrade your service to eliminate the offending channels … or get rid of the service altogether if necessary. When you travel start staying in hotels that can block or turn off the pay-per-view movies in a given room. Ask the desk clerk to do that before you enter your room.

If you are involved in computer porn, you may need to change your Internet service provider, your e-mail address, and even your credit card so that porn sites cannot contact you. Find a blocking or screening program or even an ISP that screens Web sites. If you have used a computer at the office to view pornography, then ask about getting a screening system for the office.

Move your computer into an open area of the house. Tell your wife or children to come and ask you what you are doing on the computer anytime they want to. You can also teach someone in your house to check the history in your Web browser.

Step Three: Find an accountability partner. Accountability is a scriptural principle that tells us to " ... be subject to one another in the fear of Christ" (Ephesians 5:21). This means you choose to submit your life to the scrutiny of another person in order to gain spiritual strength, growth and balance.

If you do not go to your pastor first, do so immediately after making open confession to the Lord. He is spiritually responsible to pray for you and teach you God's truth. If he is the man of God he should be, he will gladly pray for and with you, and exhort you in your spiritual growth.

Step Four: Build biblical truth into your life. If you've been filling your mind with pornographic images, chances are that you have not been spending much time reading God's Word. Begin spending time every day reading the Bible, chapter by chapter. Start with a book you like to read—the Gospel of John or the Gospel of Matthew. Read a chapter each day from Psalms and one from Proverbs. Also, seek out other opportunities—like Bible studies or conferences—to learn and apply God’s Word.

Step Five: Begin to rebuild your marriage. Your spouse may not be able to respond openly to you at first. But one thing you can start doing right now is to begin praying with him or her. It may be embarrassing, it may feel awkward, or it may even be frightening, but do it anyway. There are few things in a marriage that can draw you and your spouse together like prayer.

FamilyLife offers a number of conferences and resources to help you reduce the isolation you are experiencing in your marriage. Our Weekend to Remember™ conferences may be the best place to start the rebuilding process. At some point, you also should become involved in a small group using a study from HomeBuilders Couples Series®.We can help you find out if there is a group in your area of the country.

God will honor each small step of obedience you take. He has the power to change your heart … to help you experience the joy of a cleansed heart … to wash away your sin and guilt and shame … and to help you experience oneness again with your spouse.

Do you know what is desperate!

Want to know how she feels and why she felt that way? Look up her blog at: http://jessalynn88.blogspot.com/

Why Did God Created Moms

Why Did God Created Moms?
"God created moms to cook most of the time and to water the chickens," says Jed, 8.

Well, Jed, either you have some strange chickens, or your mom needs more farm experience. As for the cooking, let's hope your mom's chicken casserole contains poultry that someone has fed and not just watered.

"God created moms because they could go shopping while me and my dad go hunting," says Jacob, 7.

As a guy who hates to shop, that makes perfect sense to me. And while the guys are hunting, Mom will "teach girls about makeup," says Kristin, 10.

"He also created moms for girls to tell about problems we can't tell dads. Thank you, God, for creating moms."
As Kathryn, 12, says, "It's nice to be able to talk about things. I know because I have a mom."

Listening is important, but "moms were made to have fun with their kids," says Alex, 10. "You might think your mom is old, but really inside, she is a kid just like you," adds Kristen, 9.

Yes, you might be amazed that your mom likes to have fun, but even more amazing is that moms will love you even when you're not so much fun. "Moms will love you even if you fight a lot," says Adrienne, 10. "They are probably here so they can take care of their kids. But, that's just my guess."
Good guess, says Mallory, 7: "I think moms were made to hug you. I think that God made moms to kiss you, too. I think moms were made to fix your hair."

Not only are moms good for hugs and hair, but also hassles, says Beth, 9: "God created moms because we need somebody to get onto us and say things like, 'Clean up your room now!'"

Beth, you might consider what your mom does for you. J.T., 7, believes that "God made moms to do stuff without getting mad." In fact, "Moms do most of the dirty work around the house," adds observant Andrew, 10.

All right, let's get down to basics, says Justin, 9: "God created moms to give birth to people so that the earth's population will grow."

Remember, Mom was there in the beginning. You were kicking, screaming and making a mess in your diaper. Part of Mom's job is to remind you of your humble entrance into this world, says Stephen, 10: "God made moms to embarrass you in front of your friends. Moms are made to be there for you always, and you'll always be their baby."

So why do moms put up with us? Erica, 7, has the answer: "The Lord loves me so he made a person of love and faith to tackle the job of me, and that is my mom. She loves me so much. I am her love of love."

Nick, 7, says it another way: "God made moms so they could be like God."

I am a Father! Doesn't AnyOne Care!

Do U sometimes feel like you are just a "paycheck" to your family, DAD!
I entered the house and heard the sounds of voices engaged in a friendly game of cards. My wife and kids were sprawled out on the floor of the family room, and they were oblivious to my arrival.

“Hi guys!” I yelled. There was no answer. “Hi there!” I tried again. “You can’t use that card!” I heard my daughter shriek.Then the thoughts started to come. “I’m invisible to them!” I told myself. “All the stuff I do around here, and does anybody notice it? I’m working my tail off again, and they’re in here playing!” As I went downstairs, I took along some heavy baggage with me.

Fathers go through periods when they feel “outside” of their family. They feel neglected, or they feel invisible. Or, they feel like they’re just a “paycheck” to their families. But what’s really happened is they’ve forgotten they’re not on this planet to “get” love from their family members.

Read more at: http://www.christianfathers.com/father-left-out.htm

Jeremy & Jessalynn & Joey doing Battle nOw!

The following 3 photo describe Jeremy b4 his SPM.

I got a shock when I came back home before Hari Raya time to see Jeremy in his new hairstyle. I was wondering if he could get to school after Hari Raya Holiday without being called in to office of the Principle. But Jeremy told me to relax as it was just for 1 week fun and he cut his hair before school resume to the next photo.

This is how Jeremy looks like while doing his SPM now. He just finished his BM, English and History. Please cover him in prayers ok. Thanks.


Next is Jessalynn. Finishing her last 2 paper this week and next Monday and she completes 1 semester.....


Her best way to concentrate...I wonder how your kids behave before major exams! I do not have Joey's photo taken b4 exam. But I was with him this last week while I was in Kota Kinabalu. For Joey, after a stressful preparation, he would suggest we go watch James Bond, which we did. That was his way of de-stressing. He told me he will de-stressed by causing himself to be fully "Distracted" by something else. So, much so that his mind actually forgets about his study stress and attracted to this something else. So, for a while, he is not even thinking of exams, studies, and after that he comes back more fresh and ready to continue. Joey finishes he exam by Nov 23. What method is that?

Borneo Highland Trip

We were in Borneo Highland next to the border of Sarawak and Kalimantan for a retreat recently. The photo was taken at 3200+ feet above sea level which we scaled. 3 of us behind the notice were standing on Kalimantan side where as the guy sitting on the fence and the other 2 standing next to the sign board are still in M'sia side.





This is surely almost like once a lifetime experienced as most Sarawakian who I talked to, have not been to this resort before. This is really a nice place for a refreshing retreat. Cool, clean, fresh air, fantastic view of a whole sea of cloud in the morning. All Green Organic food, no meat. No soft drink sold, only coffee and tea and best of all, lemon grass tea! Praise the Lord for such an opportunity to be at this glorious location.

Angered, Impatience Dads

It’s useful to remember that our kids are not to be controlled. They are to be guided and led, but not controlled. This impatience and desire to control can lead many fathers to an emotional disconnect with their kids. And while many fathers have an acute awareness of this issue, they convince themselves that it can’t be helped.

Read the whole article at: http://www.christianfathers.com/controlling-parent.htm

How to COPE with STAY AT HOME burnOUT

Being an at home parent may be the best job you’ll ever get, but it’s HARD. You’re on call 24/7, and when you go on vacation, you still have the same responsibilities. And if you have a home business or work at home job, life can be even more challenging.

The first step to coping with burnout is preventing it in the first place. Don’t overfill your schedule with activities for the kids or yourself. Take a little time for yourself every day. You don’t need to be alone, but you do need to relax a little. Whether this may be during the kids’ naps or when they’re in school, even taking just a few minutes for you can really help. Then you can take advantage of the time to get things done with a clear head.

Make sure your expectations and those of your family are realistic. If you’re running a home business or have a work at home job, you can’t be expected to keep as perfect a house as a mother who does not. Pick a day to do the laundry, the vacuuming and other housework that doesn’t need to be done on a daily basis and leave it until then… unless the urgent need arises, of course.

When you get angry, don’t consider yourself an imperfect or bad parent. We all get angry sometimes. What is more important is how you react to the anger.
Make sure you get enough sleep. The more tired you are, the more stress you are going to feel, and the harder it will be to cope with it. If necessary, take a nap at the same time as the kids do, so they’re not getting into trouble for lack of supervision.

Plan fun activities once in a while to relieve stress. Depending on your needs and the needs of your family, this can be alone or with the entire family. Go to the beach, a park, zoo, mall, wherever it is you can relax and just have fun.

Consider planning or even cooking meals and snacks in advance. It’s easy to give your children healthy snacks if you have sliced vegetables and/or fruits ready to go in the fridge. A few minutes’ work early in the week can save you time. Meals may also be prepared in advance and frozen for those nights when you’re simply too tired to cook. Plan your meals for leftovers that will freeze well, and say goodbye to expensive frozen dinners from the grocery store.

If writing out your schedule helps you, then keep a written schedule. If it makes you feel overwhelmed, then don’t. Just because your best friend says it keeps her on schedule to have a calendar with everything she needs to do on it doesn’t mean the same will work for you.

Finally, don’t let other parents make you feel you owe them favors just because you’re at home and “have time.” You’re doing a full time job taking care of your family, not just loafing. Your schedule may be just as full as theirs, if not more so.

10 Ways to Connect with your kids

In today’s activity-packed society, it’s more important than ever to intentionally connect with your kids. Here are 10 ideas that can help you get to know your children better and pass on a legacy of faith and fun.

1. During dinner ask everyone to share one piece of both good news and bad news from the day.

2. Have regular “Kids’ Nights to Cook.” Set up a restaurant atmosphere in your home and create some lifetime memories. Little ones will enjoy decorating the table and making special menus for the evening.

3. Visit a local bookstore with your children and ask them to help you choose a family devotional. Then work through it together.

4. If you have a sports enthusiast in your home, ask him or her to give you and your spouse regular updates about what’s going on in the world of sports—both locally and nationally.

5. Do a one-on-one activity with each child at least once a week.

6. Take turns choosing Bible verses that the entire family can memorize together. Using a special journal or notebook, ask the children to record each verse after the family has memorized it together.

7. Once a week after mealtime, draw names to see who will be in the “hot seat.” (Discard each name after it is drawn so everybody will eventually be chosen.) Family members will ask the person in the “hot seat” a question that cannot be answered “Yes” or “No.”

8. When bringing the kids to school, take turns being prayer warriors—praying for each person’s day.

9. After dinner, rotate sharing a “joke of the day.”

10. Have regular family nights doing something fun that everyone enjoys

All grandchildren with grandma

(front seated, left to right, Evon Lim - Goddaughter's daughter, Grandma (my Mother) 70, Jessalynn Koh.
Back row from left - Benson Koh, my younger brother's son, Joey Koh. Jeremy Koh, Lim Ah Chun, Marcus Lim and his girlfriend Chao Yan. Not in Picture is my brother's youngest son Jonathan Koh.

All here to say hello to you. Pray that they will all walk with Jesus the rest of their lives.

Tour of HOPE

The Objective: Funds raised through this Charity Dinner will be channeled into Rebuilding Projects for the Cyclone Nargis victims of Myanmar.

The Team: The Brazilian Team, which includes players from the World Cup Winning Teams of 1994 and 1998 World Cup, are here in Malaysia! Dine with them for a night of purpose and hope.

Cyclone Nargis, Myanmar. In the May 2008 Cyclone that devastated parts of Myanmar, over 120,000 people lost their lives. Thousands of houses were destroyed and just in one province (Pyapon) over 450 schools were completely washed away.

For further information:Tel : 80243026 or 80259950 HP: 017 - 3857903Email: mailto:wawasangmr@mail.com or mailto:tourofhope@thegame.comWebsite: www.tour-of-hope.info Click Here to download map to the restaurant.

Principal Tour Organizer : Wawasan GMR

Keep a Date with us!

My Struggle in Shame with Masturbation - Your Teenager may be going through this!

Honestly, I didn't know where to begin. I just knew I needed to say something. The last several months had been really difficult for me. I hadn't been myself. I wasn't reading my Bible. I rarely prayed. And I'd lost my joy—often snapping angrily at loved ones, feeling lonely and fearing everyone was out to get me. I felt trapped in a dark pit and I didn't know how to climb out.

What I did know was how I got into that pit. It'd been a long, gradual slide downward. For years, I'd been masturbating. No, that act alone didn't cause all of my problems. Instead, it was a symptom of the selfishness, lust and pride built up in my heart. I tried to convince myself masturbation was harmless—a normal part of sexuality. But really, it allowed my weaknesses to take a hold of me. When I hated myself, masturbation was an easy way to feel wanted and loved. When I felt out of control, my fantasies were a place where I could control anything—or anyone. On top of all this, I felt intense guilt and shame for my actions.

Read All of My STRUGGLE IN SHAME WITH MASTURBATION By Scott Kelly at http://www.christianitytoday.com/cl/2008/003/9.38.html and/or scroll down my blog and look for My Name is Spell T.E.E.N. TEENs only Link.

The Importance of Feeling Important

Terry L. Sumerlin sharing - About twenty years ago, when our married daughters were in elementary school, they had a bicycle accident. Jo Ellen, our oldest, lost control of her bike and ran into her sister, Amanda, who was standing right in her path. Suddenly the front fender of the bike slid rather abruptly between Amanda’s fingers, and left a sizable gash that required several stitches.

The thing I remember most about the incident took place after we returned from the doctor. Amanda stood in our den, held up her bandaged fingers and, with absolute innocence and candor, declared, “Now I finally have something important to talk about!”

What a commentary on people – young and old. We all want to feel important and to have something important to tell others.

As children, we couldn’t wait to tell others how we got our bruise, our cut or our broken bone. As adults we’re sometimes the same with illnesses and surgeries. They make us feel special. They become badges of honor. We act somewhat like a friend I had who broke his neck and, though he healed, subsequently referenced everything to before or after his accident. We, too, are prone to “hang on to” such personally important events. We need to feel important.

Read all of Terry's sharing on Christian Father at; http://www.christianfathers.com/self-esteem.htm and/or scroll down my blog and lookout on the right side for Incredible DADs Link for more info

Moms need FRIENDS too!

With everything we moms have to do, making time for our friends seems impossible. We’re lucky if we have time to do more than shoot them an occasional email, and it’s likely that our friends feel like they’re in the same boat.

But have you noticed that your children are happier when they’ve had a chance to play with others? That somehow we find the time to schedule play dates for them?

We moms are the same way. We need our friends to make us laugh, share our troubles and just keep us connected to the world beyond children and work. The good news is that if we schedule time to be with our friends we’ll be more likely to keep the appointments – and come back feeling refreshed and better able to deal with our family and work responsibilities.

Read all about Moms Need Friends too at http://www.christian-parent.com/mom-play-dates.shtml And/or scroll down this blog on the right side you can find Incredible MOMs Link for more info and articles.

Guilt Free PARENTING...We all want it!

I don’t know about you, but I do guilt very well. At times, it seems like I can feel guilty for almost anything. Also, as a parent I mess up routinely. I can be short with my temper and my words are not always pleasant. Also, there seems to be a new parenting article out daily that tells you how to parent and of course it feels like to me anyway that I always come up short. My hunch is I am not the only one that feels that way. So, how do I have the audacity to come up with an article entitled, “Guilt Free Parenting”? Actually, it wasn’t totally my idea. God placed the idea and burden on my heart to share it with you.

Let’s look at Psalm 139:16, “Thine eyes have seen my unformed substance; And in Thy book they were all written, the days that were ordained for me, when as yet there was not one of them.” Basically, before you were born God marked out your days and may I add also your children’s days. God has a plan for you and He has one for your children as well.

What does all of this have to do with guilt free parenting? I’m glad you asked. God is truly in control of your life and your children’s lives as well. We cannot always see His hand or plan, but He is there. That means on our worst parenting days God is still working His plan in our lives and in our children’s lives in spite of us. There have been so many times in the Bible where at first glance God’s plan did not make sense and then on later inspection it made perfect sense. So, when we are not doing a good job of being parents, God is still working in our lives and our children’s lives.
Read all at http://www.christian-parent.com/articles/042705e.shtml Scroll down and watch out for Incredible PARENTING Link on the right side of this blog for more information about PARENTING

If you Gone TOO FAR.......

Guilt is a crushing force. And guilt that comes from sexual impurity presses the heart in its tenderest places. It hurts to know you've sinned against God, your parents, your partner, yourself, and your future spouse—someone you might not even know yet. You've given away something you can never get back. The pain hangs like a stone in your soul.

You can't carry that weight.

You can find peace by confessing your sins to Jesus and submitting yourself to his service. He alone can make you whole and give you a fresh start. He'll lift the guilt from your heart and cover you with his mercy. You can be forgiven, too.

For a little more help, please read:

http://www.christianitytoday.com/cl/9c5/9c5037.html

Read More about TEENs at my My Name is Spell T.E.E.N. TEENS only link

Dads! Is this happening to our DAUGHTERS!

Fathers, this writing is on behalf of your daughters who need you desperately. These words are not meant to blame, hurt, or point fingers, but to rattle you into responsiveness, to shake you into action. We hurting daughters are a national dilemma. You won't hear about us on the six o'clock news, but we are here.

We are living under your roof, eating from the same dinner table as you, pouring from the same milk carton. We are spending at least eighteen years, or 6,570 days with you at home. We pass you in the hall and wonder why we aren't enough to catch your eye. We wonder what on earth a television set, a newspaper, has that we don't. We are curious why you don't get fired up for your daughters like you do the big game.

We are attuned to the fact you don't seem very interested in our words, our feelings, our deepest convictions and doubts. We sob on the inside.

Read more at Incredible Dads Link - Father & Daughter disconnected.

Incredible Dad and Incredible Mom Link!

"When I was just eleven years old, our family drove from Toronto to Eastern Ontario, to the region north of the St. Lawrence River, where my father had been born. We reached the little village of Ventnor and Spencerville just before midnight; the residents had long since gone to bed. But dad needed directions to find the old homestead, where we were to spend the night. Reluctantly he stopped at a darkened house and knocked on the door. After several minutes of waiting, the yard light came on, and an older man opened the door. I could hear my father apologizing for the inconvenience; and then he identified himself as the son of the Pearson Lockerbie - my grandfather, dead for more than a score of years. Oh, come in, come in", said the old man. "No trouble, at all. We knew your father."… "That's the greatest legacy a man can leave his son." Read more about Fathers by going to the Incredible Dads Link on the right scroll down.

Mothers have an incredible role in determining the future of the country. No, not in voting for education or against gun control, though those things are important. The immense power that mothers have is in forming the lives of the future generations.
Our children learn what love is from us, who God is, ethics and social behavior, and patience in their closest relationships, from their mothers.
Read more about Mothers at the Incredible Mom's Link as you scroll down on the right sidebar.

For Parents ONLY

One of my greatest passion as parent is to connect and partner with other Parents. Parenting is indeed something incredible and it takes us a life time to learn so that we can be effective as parents and truly giving our God entrusted Children the best parenting experience.

For this reason, I have decided to continue to learn and as I learned, I want to share those resources with you. I have added on my sidebar a link to many sites where you can pick up alot of good teaching and tips on parenting. Do scroll down and look up on the right side-bar for INCREDIBLE PARENTING and get connected.

An Invitation to Men to join me for an Evening to Remember

Malaysia, along with the rest of the world, faces crisis of unprecedented proportions. Political, social, economic, religious, ecological and educational challenges create an environment of uncertainty. Yet perhaps the most critical crisis is that of moral and spiritual leadership. People are affected by the erosion of moral values that sustain societies and cultures. Today, people desperately need leaders who live out in the practice the values they verbally affirm.

Leaders, be it at home, business or in the society, must have not only knowledge and skills, but also a proven character and conviction to give them a platform to lead. The only sure foundation for developing leaders with such character and conviction is through a deep personal relationship with Christ.

We are convinced that change in homes, business and nation can only take place when the hearts of its people are changed. We all need a personal encounter with Christ which truly leads to a transformed life, then a transformed home and a transformed nation.

For this reason, we sincerely invite you to a very powerful “Evening of Transformation” which will take place on Oct 17th in Hilton Hotel, Kuching, and Oct 18th in TanahMas Hotel, Sibu. Sponsored by the Men’s Movement of Malaysia in partnership with Global Leadership Movement – A Ministry of Campus Crusade for Christ, which seek to work with Key Leaders working all over the World.

We believe you have experienced a personal transformation and God must have given you a conviction for a personal transformation, which will lead to a transformed home and a transformed nation. God, who had started a good work in your life, have also been at work in the hearts of many others in Malaysia. The “Evening of Transformation” seek to warm your hearts through surfacing many others like-minded who the Lord had raise up for such a time like these.

The Evening feature Guest Speakers,
Dr. Tom Roxas - President of the International Graduate Leadership School (IGSL) Asia, Director of Affairs for Campus Crusade South East Asia.
Dr. Andrew Liuson - One of the top Developer in Philippines and South East Asia who is Board Member of Campus Crusade for Christ International, also Board Chairman for IGSL, Board Chairman of Grace College Philippines, Chairman of FEBA.
Dr. Mike Morales – Retired Colonel, Associate Executive Director of Global Leadership Group, top Professor of Philippines Military Academy, Twice voted as Top Professors of the Philippines.
Mr. Geri Gambala – Former Army Captain who became known for leading the “Oakwood Mutiny” Coup in the Philippines in 2003. A Volunteer with Global Leadership Movement.

In his own words, Geri Gambala said, “In July 27, 2003, I led a group of soldiers to lay siege to a hotel in the Business Centre of Makati City. At that time I was convinced it was the way through which we could effect change in the Armed Forces of the Philippines (AFP) and eventually in the Country as a whole. I want to change my Country. I want to change the World. But now I know that change starts from the heart, and only Jesus Christ can change a person’s heart.” Geri was sentenced to 20-50 years’ imprisonment. He spent 4 years, 9 months and 19 days in prison and was pardoned by the President after humbling himself before Christ and all governing authorities. Come and hear him share his encounter with Jesus. We are sure your hearts will be warmed!

God is truly raising up a new generation of Leaders like your kind-self who may already had an encounter with Christ in a powerful way. Synergize with us as we seek God for a transform Life, leading to a transformed Home and Transformed Nation.

Again, my most sincere Invitation to you to join me for an Evening to Remember! Email me or call me to confirm your coming.

Introducing my Community

PLease meet my communities. All the young couples we are working with.

It's great to have a Daughter! I really feel that way about Jessalynn

Agnes and I have been blessed with a daughter and she is non other than Jessalynn Koh. Jessalynn was the smallest baby amongst our 3 children but she is by no way small...

She has got a big heart for Jesus and surely she has alot of empathy for friends and that is why she has got tons of friends. Not only peers ok, some of her teachers are her best friends. She is trully a M'sian with friends amongst all races, and good friends ok!

This is how Jessalynn describe herself in her blog; Sincere, Strong perseverance, Able to think, Able to accept, Firm with own beliefs, Always improve..

Her Interest; piano.. guitar.. bass guitar.. set drum.. violin.. flute.. compose.. She completed grade 8 piano and she is very good in music. Any instruments she lay her hands on, she learned it by herself fast. Can you imagine her playing drum! then on one fine Sunday, while worshipping in Church, I was shock to find her playing the Bass guitar.

Personally, Jessalynn is very personable. She can laugh her heart out and she shed tears easily. She is real, sincere, loving, very freindly, lots of leadership, thrifty and like her brothers, she is 110% person. Either she is fully a 110% into things or nothing. She is active and always has tons of energy in her. Very helpful, class monitor, assistant head prefect, a sergeant with the Red Cresent while in school and now a Boy Brigade Instructor, she even won medals in sports (tug-a-war)and she has a biggest file filled with awards, recognition certificates. Most of all, a nice loving girl to call my daughter.I can't ask for more. I am very proud of her and I am surely proud to be known as her dad.

Jessalynn is in her 1st year doing HR Development at UTM and she has been active in helping her course-mates coming to know Jesus and actively discipling them. Pray with me for God's special protection over her and also pray that God will use her powerfully where she is right now. She can be reached at her email at youendien@yahoo.com or her blog at www.jessalynn88.blogspot.com

Jessalynn, like all of us, needed encouragement. Do share one with her ok! God bless you as you bless her.

Amazing Grocery List

Louise redden, a poorly dressed lady with a look of defeat on her face, walked into a grocery store...

She approached the owner of the store in a most humble manner and asked if he would let her charge a few groceries.

She softly explained that her husband was very ill and unable to work, they had seven children and they need ed food..

John longhouse, the grocer, scoffed at her and requested that she leave his store at once.

Visualizing the family needs, she said: 'please, sir! I will bring you the money just as
soon as i can.'

John told her he could not give her credit, since she did not have a charge account at his store.

Standing beside the counter was a customer who overheard the conversation between the two. The customer walked forward and told the grocer that he would stand good for whatever she needed for her family.

The grocer said in a very reluctant voice, 'do you have a grocery list?'

Louise replied, 'yes sir.' 'o.k' he said, 'put your grocery list on the scales and whatever your grocery list weighs, i will give you that amount in groceries.'

Louise, hesitated a moment with a bowed head, then she reached into her purse and took out a piece of paper and scribbled something on it. She then laid the piece of paper on the scale carefully with her head still bowed.

The eyes of the grocer and the customer showed amazement when the scales went down and stayed down.

The grocer, staring at the scales, turned slowly to the customer and said begrudgingly, 'I can't believe it.'

The customer smiled and the grocer started putting the groceries on the other side of the scales. The scale did not balance so he continued to put more and more groceries on them until the scales would hold no more.

The grocer stood there in utter disgust. Finally, he grabbed the piece of paper from the scales and looked at it with greater amazement.

It was not a grocery list, it was a prayer, which said:
'Dear Lord, you know my needs and I am leaving this in your hands.'

The grocer gave her the groceries that he had gathered and stood in stunned silence.

Louise thanked him and left the store. The other customer handed a fifty-dollar bill to the grocer and said;

'It was worth every penny of it. Only God knows how much a prayer weighs.'
The power of prayer: when you receive this, say a prayer. That's all you have to do.

Just stop right now, and say a prayer of thanks for your own good fortune.

I believe if you will send this testimony out with prayer in faith, you will receive what you need God to do in your and your families' life .

So dear heart, trust God to heal the sick, provide food for the hungry, clothes and shelter for those that don't have as we do.

Prayer is one of the best free gifts we receive.

There is no cost but a lot of rewards.
May you always walk with angels
God bless!

i am claiming this for you

Three things will happen to you this coming week:
(1) you will find favor with someone you don't expect;

(2) you will be too relevant to be ignored;

(3) you will encounter God and you will never remain the same, amen.

My prayer for you today:

The eyes beholding this message shall not behold evil, the hands that will send this message to others shall not labour in vain, the mouth saying amen to this prayer shall laugh forever. Remain in God's love as you send this prayer to everybody on your list. Have a lovely journey of life! Trust in the Lord with all your heart and he will never fail you because He is awesome!

If you truly need a blessing, continue reading;

Heavenly Father, most gracious and loving God, I pray to you that you abundantly bless my family and me. I know that you recognize, that a family is more than just a mother, father, sister, brother, husband and wife, but all who believe and trust in You. Father, I send up a prayer request for blessings for not only the person who sent this to me, but for me and all that I have forwarded this message on to. And that the power of joined prayer by those who believe and trust in you is more powerful than anything. I thank You in advance for your blessings.

Father God, deliver the person reading this right now from debt and debt burdens. Release your Godly wisdom that I may be a good steward over all that You have given me Father, for I know how wonderful and mighty You are and how if we just obey You and walk in Your Word and have the faith of a mustard seed that You will pour out blessings. I thank You now Lord for the recent blessings I have received and for the blessings yet to come because i know You are not done with me yet. In Jesus name, I
pray, amen

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Please meet Jeremy Koh

Please meet Jeremy, my youngest son. I am very pleased and proud when I was told that he was chosen by his school SMK Taman Mutiara Rini 2, to receive the school's "Anugerah Tokoh Pelajar 2008" or the Outstanding Student of the Year Award for 2008. (Sept 17, 2008 correction - my apology. Jeremy told me he is Tokoh Pelajar 2008 for co-curriculum only)

The award was in recognition of his outstanding leadership and role model. It hasn't been smooth for Jeremy since joining this new school 5 years ago. Lots of up and down. Jeremy is by no means a Saint, rather he is really more of the average Joe, with his bad patches here and there.

But Jeremy stood tall, in face with adversities. He is humble enough to confess and admit his shortcoming. He seek to rectify especially when he knows he is wrong and seek forgiveness. Jeremy show otstanding passion and commitment in his responsibilities. He is the 110% guy or nothing. Either all or nothing. He doesn't do things half-hearted. Jeremy has his weaknesses like any one of us but I have chosen to be proud of him and to stand with him and to encourage him. Even without the Tokoh Pelajar, I have chosen to be proud of him. I have taken pride in being known as Jeremy's father. What about you? do you take pride to be your children's dad and mum?

I love Jeremy, as much as I love Joey and Jessalynn. I am very proud to be their father and I really pray that you will feel the same about your kids!

What the 40 Days of Purpose did for a Boy from Sibu and Childrens from Miri

When I read day 27th from the book of 40 Days Of Purpose. I learnt that you don’t defeat temptation by fighting the feeling of it. The more you fight a feeling, the more it consumes and controls you. So the quickest way to neutralize its allure is to turn your attention on something else.

I sometimes face the temptation of playing computer games (Maplestory). I kept on thinking about it, so I ended up playing. Now, since I have to face UPSR this year end, so I cannot play computer until after UPSR.

Next time when I face temptation, I will stop thinking about it and go to study or read a book.

Josiah Tie.
12 years old
15th of August, 2008.

Alvin Tan, age 7
I am happy that I came to join. I learned that God is the greatest creator of the earth and universe. I have learned to worship, to have fellowship, to play, to swim and to study. I believe more in God and I am more hardworking.

Tien Eu Ting, age 11
I have learned lots of things from 40 Days Of Purpose. One of them is fellowship and forgiving one another or just saying 'hi' to someone whom you haven’t seen for a long time. I also learned that little children like us can also be great help to God through spreading the Gospel with the wordless book that our teachers gave us.

Jeremy Lee, age 10
The most important lesson that I have learned is to know how much God loves me. I also learned to love the people surrounding me especially my brother Joshua and sister Elena. I used to make them angry but now I quarrel less with them. Now I stopped myself from saying not so nice things to them. I do all this because I want to please God.

Priscilla Wong, age 9
I am glad that I joined. Now I know how to share things with others and know how to care for others.

Michelle Hii, age 8 (Primary 2)
I am very happy that I come to join this programme. I want to read the bible to learn more about Jesus and imitate Him in every way. I want to be more obedient to my parents.

Martin Wong, age 7 (Primary 1)
After the 40 Days I will love and care for my friends.

This group of Sunday School students are from Grace Methodist Church in Miri.

Sharing from the PurposeDrivel Life Small Group Members

我们小组的分享


组长: 杨函英
从这个课程中，我被教导和提醒上帝为我所定的人生终极目标不是安逸享乐而是品格的塑造，因此我对自己的处境或顺或逆，心中更懂得感恩，就如在这课程期间我因服事而身体疲乏及感冒时，我被提醒时时刻刻倚靠圣灵，我感受到上帝的安慰，还有察验上帝的陪伴及惊喜圣灵在组员身上的感动和引导。我真的非常放心的活在上帝塑造我的生命目的里。

组员:

陈孟樟
在我作一些事情，讲一些话时会去想这个是不是神喜欢的。

李岩沄
我觉得这本书对我有蛮大的帮助。我从中领悟到以神观点处事待人及把焦点放在神身上，特别是学习去爱人，服事人及更清楚自己活着的目的。

方丽珠
感谢神，感谢教会给我学习到服事神，让我也懂得服事人。这本书‘标竿人生’让我学习到关怀，忍耐。包容等等。上帝拣选我，我也选择上帝，愿我尽心尽性尽意尽力爱主我的神。

陈玉琴
感谢主，藉着标竿人生课程，让我知道人生的目的是什么，我已经做了长不大的基督徒好久了。什么是灵命也不知道，常常被情欲控制，总觉得自己是罪恶的，甚至已经很多年没有去领圣餐。透过华理克牧师的教导，使我的灵命成长。

感谢主赐我勇气和力量，不再惧怕，主曾说：我绝不撇下你，也不丢弃你。感谢主，与我同在。阿们。

陈玉容参加标杆人生40天，让我认识到人生活着的目的。凡事无论大小上帝都在意，所以我要努力的学习活出基督的样式，做一个神所喜爱的女儿。

郑秀仙
标竿人生拉近了我与神的距离，我看见了自己眼中的梁木。

许莉风
标竿人生是一个非常好的课程。我参加了此课程后，我知道我的人生目的，也让我活的更有方向。

陈洛云
Before I lived in uncertainty as I don’t understand what is worth living for. Now I know I am God’s workmanship, created to be part of his master plan for all of us. What is more worthy to live for than living for God.

Members of Sibu Wesley Methodist Church

Amazing Grace, truly amazing!

Praise the Lord!
Both Agnes and I celebrate God's goodness in enabling us to journey with Him the past 28 years in full-time ministry. We have completed 28 years as staff with Malaysia Campus Crusade for Christ and have just began our 29th year.

We wish to thank all of you for standing with us all these while. Especially you who trusted us and have expressed so through your prayers and support. We acknowledge that without you and others standing with us, we wouldn't have been able to make it this far.

One key decision for Agnes and I will be to trust God to even do greater things in and through our lives. For us, getting older will not mean slowing down. For us, it will be like Caleb, the dear partner of Joshua, who would go to Joshua after they have crossed into the promised land, to ask, "Give me this mountain." We both will ask God for "This Mountain" - a generation of people God have entrusted us to reach. We will take on "This Mountain" with all our lives in full surrender unto God because only Him can do it in and through us. We will not only faithfully and earnestly seek to fullfill God's calling, but we will feverishly (if there is such description), even liken to being out of our mind, pursuing to do what God has entrusted.

Acts 20:24 fully expresses our heart's intention,"However, I consider my life worth nothing to me, if only I may finish the race and complete the task the Lord Jesus has given me - the task of testifying to the gospel of God's grace."

We sincerely invite you to join us in this journey of our lives by faith to fulfill God's purposes for our lives and we thank you in advance. We covet your prayers, support, encouragement and friendship.

Knowing what and why you believe!

Seven Reasons Why Truth Matters

Truth Matters Because the Heart of What We Believe is at Stake

Without Truth, the Gospel is Perverted

Rejection of Truth Results in Biblical Illiteracy

Rejection of Truth Leads to Ethical Confusion

The Rejection of Truth Undermines Cultural Development

Rejecting Truth Leads to False Gods

If Christianity is Not the Truth, it is

Read all at; http://www.sermoncentral.com/articleb.asp?article=Charles-Colson-Why-Truth-Matters&ac=true

Suggested by a friend!

Wacky Definitions!!!

Father:A banker provided by nature.
Boss: Someone who is early when you are late and late when you are early.
Life Insurance: A contract that keeps you poor all your life so that you can die Rich.
School: A place where Papa pays and Son plays.
Doctor: A person who kills your ills by pills, and kills you by bills. Nurse:A person who wakes u up to give you sleeping pills.
Marriage: It's an agreement in which a man loses his bachelor degree and a woman gains her masters.
Tears: The hydraulic force by which masculine willpower is defeated by feminine water-power.
Lecture: An art of transferring information from the notes of the Lecturer to the notes of the students without passing through 'the minds of either'
Conference: The confusion of one man multiplied by the number present.
Compromise: The art of dividing a cake in such a way that everybody believes he got the biggest piece.
Dictionary: A place where success comes before work.
Conference Room: A place where everybody talks, nobody listens and everybody disagrees later on.
Politician: One who shakes your hand before elections and your Confidence after.
Classic: Books, which people praise, but do not read. Smile: A curve that can set a lot of things straight.
Office: A place where you can relax after your strenuous home life.
Yawn: The only time some married men ever get to open their mouth.
Etc.: A sign to make others believe that you know more than you actually do.
Committee: Individuals who can do nothing individually and sit to decide that nothing can be done together.
Experience: The name men give to their mistakes.
Atom Bomb: An invention to end all inventions.
Philosopher: A fool who torments himself during life, to be wise after death

A Very Exciting 40 DOP at GMC

Celebration Sunday, the grand finale of the 40 Days of Purpose programme was held during the morning service yesterday. The highlight of the event was when participants shared how their lives were being transformed during the 40 days. During the launch of the new song "Heart of a Servant", a number of participants came forward when Pastor Law called upon those who wished to re-dedicate their lives to Jesus. The presence of the Holy Spirit was felt during the call.

Read more at http://grace40dop.blogspot.com/

Saddleback Civil Forum Today

What is the Saddleback Civil Forum?
The Saddleback Civil Forum is a monthly forum for Southern California intended to promote personal responsibility, social civility, and spiritual maturity, held on the 120 acre campus of Saddleback Church in Lake Forest, California. World leaders in science, business, education, the arts, entertainment, government, health, and religion are invited to speak on subjects of community interest. Sometimes speakers are ordinary people with extraordinary stories, such as a recent forum when five Jewish holocaust survivors shared how they survived the World War II death camps.

How did the Saddleback Civil Forum on the Presidency come about?
On July 2nd, after efforts by another organization failed to get the two candidates together, Dr. Rick Warren personally contacted the candidates out of his relationship with both men, and invited them to Saddleback's Civil Forum for August. Both agreed to participate on two conditions: 1) that Dr. Warren ask all the questions -- instead of a panel, or from the audience -- and 2) that it be open for all national media to cover as news or carry via live video feed from Saddleback, as opposed to co-sponsorship by any one network or outlet, as was done during the primary campaigns.

After so many debates among candidates throughout the primaries, what makes this event unique?
This will be the first joint appearance of the two presumptive nominees of both parties for President, and one of only four joint appearances of the campaigns, including three debates planned for later this fall. It is also the final general appearance by either candidate before they go into hiatus prior to their respective conventions. And, as far as we know, it is the first time that a church pastor has ever moderated an event, in a local church, featuring the two major candidates for President.

Read more at http://saddlebackcivilforum.com/index.html